There’s a reason you learned this way of being.
When emotional needs aren’t consistently met, something subtle happens, you learn to rely on yourself.
You become observant, self reliant and attuned to what others need. You can read a room quickly because perhaps you had to in order to remain safe.
You sense what will keep things calm, you step in and handle it yourself. Y
Over time, being strong becomes automatic.
Being needed becomes familiar and your own needs quietly move to the background.
The very qualities that helped you navigate your early relationships competence, sensitivity, and independence are the same ones that can leave you feeling alone, overextended, or unseen now.
And what once kept you steady may no longer be what helps you feel connected, especially to yourself.
When you begin to understand this, something shifts.